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How To Boost Your Self-Esteem

Do you find yourself thinking you're not "enough" of something (thin, pretty, smart, successful, young, old, etc.) to have what you really want in your life? What if the biggest obstacle you're dealing with is just the thought of that, which is what's creating the...

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What Are You Focusing On?

Hi Karen, I have an online dating pet peeve: men who send an email that simply says "how are you?" and nothing else.  Or men who clearly don't read your profile and what you're looking for and write to you anyway even though the deal-breakers are obvious (such as...

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They're on My Case About Being Unmarried

Hi Karen, I’m going to my family’s home in Ohio for Christmas, and I am dreading it.  I’ll be around a bunch of nosy, judgmental family members that I don’t even like, and they’re going to get on my case about being unmarried.  I hate it!  It happens every year, and...

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Nice Guys – Not Bad Boys – Should Finish First

Karen, Is there something wrong with me?  Nice men want to be with me, but I am just not attracted to them.  I seem to always gravitate towards the “bad boy”, even though I know it doesn’t work.  Help! - Mary Hi, Mary, You’re dealing with something that so many women...

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Having Happy Holidays

This can be such a challenging time of year for people, partly because our expectations of experiencing all this joy, fun, love and happiness (that’s supposed to be abundant in our lives through the holidays) may not actually be happening. In fact, quite the opposite...

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Getting Through Fairy-Tale-Itis

Dear Karen, I was recently dating a man who I thought was “the one”.  Things were going along well, and then “Boom!” – he dumped me.  There had been a couple of things that I had seen along the way, but I thought we were still fine.  I am so shocked and hurt.  How can...

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How to Date More Effectively

Dear Karen, I am so frustrated!  I have had three dates with a guy, and I don’t feel like I know him any better now than when we first met!  I don’t feel any connection with him, although, from what I learned about him through his profile, he’s got lots of potential. ...

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You Can't "Complete" Each Other

That line in the movie Jerry Maguire sent legions of women swooning. But what if waiting for a man to "complete you", or being with a man who is waiting for you to "complete him", is actually a bad plan?  

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Give Yourself That Needed Transition Time

If you're in focused, producing, driving and in masculine mode during the day, how do you transition into your feminine self when you're with your partner? It's important to do, and not just for you!  

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Enjoy Your Life – It’s Very Attractive!

Dear Karen, There are so many things I’d love to be doing, but I don’t want to get involved with things and miss a chance to find someone to be in a relationship with.  I’m scared to be single for the rest of my life, and getting into things before I’ve met someone...

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Fear That He's "Too Good For You"

Dear Karen, I have a problem that has come up.  Sometimes when I meet someone that is really fantastic, I get the old "he's way too good for me" feeling.  I know that this is really bad and I try to tell myself it's silly. I'm afraid I'm projecting out what's going on...

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Don't Wait Until You Lose the Weight

Dear Karen, I have always struggled with my weight, and I have a fear that the reason the men I want haven't been interested in me is because of my weight/appearance. I have had more than one experience where I've e-mailed back and forth with a guy, talked on the...

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He Cannot Read Your Mind

Dear Karen, I’m really getting back out there and dating, after a painful breakup.  I have a question about something that comes up for me quite a bit; I believe that if a man really cares about you, he should intuitively know what you need.  Do you agree with me on...

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Why Can’t Men Handle This?

Dear Karen, I've started dating online again and I am astonished at literally the countless number of men's profiles who say "no drama please".  What exactly do they mean by this?  I feel as though either they are unrealistic about relationships or they don't...

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To Online Date, Or Not

Dear Karen, I have just gotten back into the dating scene, after a long-term relationship that didn’t work out.  I would like to know what other vehicles you would recommend for meeting men (other than online dating, which I do NOT want to do).  Thank you for any help...

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Preparing For Online Dating

Dear Karen, How do I manage online dating?  I decided to take the plunge – thanks to the link on your website for that 3-for-1 special that Chemistry.com is running…it was the final “nudge” I needed!  Anyway, how do I do this successfully?  If this is too big a...

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Online Dating – Have Fun, Be Safe

Dear Karen, I’ve heard that the guys doing online dating are not the type of men you want to be with.  It makes me nervous about putting myself out there.  Should I just find other ways to meet men? – Tracy, AZ Hi, Tracy, I’m a huge fan of online dating, so let me...

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Jumping In To The Adventure Of Online Dating

Dear Karen, I am thinking that I should do some internet dating, even though it makes me very nervous.  Do you have any suggestions for how I can reduce my anxiety about it, and do you have a recommendation for which site to join?  Thanks for your help with this. –...

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The Law of Attraction and Manifesting a Relationship

Dear Karen, I hear all this stuff about Law of Attraction and Manifestation, and it makes so much sense to me.  How can I get to a feeling and being place of already having what I want - when I really don't?  What can I do to get, and stay, in a place of knowing I...

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