Dear Karen, There are so many things I’d love to be doing, but I don’t want to get involved with things and miss a chance to find someone to be in a relationship with. I’m scared to be single for the rest of my life, and getting into things before I’ve met someone...
Dear Karen, I’m really getting back out there and dating, after a painful breakup. I have a question about something that comes up for me quite a bit; I believe that if a man really cares about you, he should intuitively know what you need. Do you agree with me on...
Dear Karen, I've started dating online again and I am astonished at literally the countless number of men's profiles who say "no drama please". What exactly do they mean by this? I feel as though either they are unrealistic about relationships or they don't...
Dear Karen, I’ve just started dating a man I’m very excited about. We don’t live near each other – we met skiing, and see each other when we’re both there on the weekends. We are getting pretty serious (at least, it feels like it, and I sure hope so!). Here’s my...
Dear Karen, How do I manage online dating? I decided to take the plunge – thanks to the link on your website for that 3-for-1 special that Chemistry.com is running…it was the final “nudge” I needed! Anyway, how do I do this successfully? If this is too big a...
Dear Karen, I’ve heard that the guys doing online dating are not the type of men you want to be with. It makes me nervous about putting myself out there. Should I just find other ways to meet men? – Tracy, AZ Hi, Tracy, I’m a huge fan of online dating, so let me...
Dear Karen, I am thinking that I should do some internet dating, even though it makes me very nervous. Do you have any suggestions for how I can reduce my anxiety about it, and do you have a recommendation for which site to join? Thanks for your help with this. –...
Karen, I think I’m done with men. I just feel like I would have to turn myself completely inside-out to make one of them even choose me, never mind stay with me! I am not interested in dealing with all the crap I would have to deal with, in order to have a man in my...
The Trouble with Valentine’s Day If you’re like most women (from my observations), you can get yourself fairly worked up leading up to Valentine’s Day...and the media sure does throw gas on that fire! Note: If you’re a woman who doesn’t get emotionally hooked by...
Dear Karen, I have been out on a few dates with a man I am very excited about. My question to you is this: how can I stay on track so he wants to be with me? He’s really a catch, and I think we’d be great together. I want him to stick around long enough to know it,...
Dear Karen, I have been getting tons of matches on eHarmony and am enjoying the experience so far. However, often when I look at the pictures a man has posted I know automatically I am not attracted to him, yet I feel guilty closing the match just on that reason...am...
Dear Karen, I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, and, although he’s nice enough and everything, I just don’t feel that “spark” with him. My question is this: am I being too picky? Should I just get over it and keep going out with him? Or is this telling me...
Hi Karen, I recently accepted a date with a man I met on Match.com who was not a good match for me because of his age (57), but I decided to go out with him anyway. When he asked me out for a 2nd date, I said yes - mostly because I didn't know how to say no (in...
Dear Karen, I know a lot of people are feeling scared these days. My question is this: I am out there dating, and want to end up in a really great relationship - one that lasts. With everyone in such a down mood, how is this ever going to work? Should I just wait...
Dear Karen, I’m confused with how to date. I've heard so many different things through media, and through girlfriends. Because she didn’t approve of the way I was dating, my mother gave me the book, "The Rules". I buried myself in this book at the age of 22. I'm now...
Dear Karen, I’ve recently connected with a man on Match.com, and I think we could be a good fit. The problem? He won’t get off his butt and suggest we get together! This guy just wants to email back and forth, which is driving me nuts. Is he just too much of a...
Dear Karen, I am in love with a man I want to be with so badly. He’s the best guy I’ve ever been with (and I’ve known many). He’s not completely done with his divorce, and it’s pretty ugly between them right now. They’ve got kids they’re fighting over, and they...
Hi, Karen, I met a man on Match.com last year, after a very long “man drought”. He was so sweet, he loves to dance - which is very important to me - and he was really into me…he “hit me like a ton of bricks”! Here’s my problem: he lives in Georgia six months out of...
Karen, I’ve met a man I am pretty excited about – I’ve dated SO many men over the last few years, and he seems to have everything I’m looking for. That’s the great news. Now, the one little “red flag”, which is why I’m writing, is that he’s in his early 50s, and has...
Dear Karen, I’ve been dating a man for the past couple of months, and I’m crazy about him. I’ve never connected with someone so well, or so deeply. My only issue is that he’s told me that he is not interested in being in a committed relationship (he’s just gotten...