Focus in a relationship is like fertilizer to a garden. Do you see what's working, or what's going wrong? Get a little encouragement from this quick tip, and watch your relationships flourish!
What Do You Focus On (and Therefore Grow)?
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When to Apply the "Kissing Test"
Do you choose men to date based on how much you'd like to kiss them? This could be a bad idea. Chemistry can be so, so dangerous... just think about all the past relationships you've had where you started off feeling so hot for the guy, and then everything went to...
Where Are The Great Men – And How Do I Attract One?
Dear Karen, I have been on a few online dating sites, and am just not having any luck! I feel like I’ve got a great profile, I’m attractive and fun, but all I seem to meet is one jerk after another! It’s so annoying! I kinda feel like I want to throw in the towel,...
Dating Is A Great Mirror
Dear Karen, I often wonder what I appear like on a date. Do I seem interested? Too independent? I wish I could take a hidden video camera just to see what I seem like. Sometimes, a man may not call back, and I do wonder: “Was the karma not right? Me? Him? Just...
You Do Know What You Want
Karen, I think I’m done with men. I just feel like I would have to turn myself completely inside-out to make one of them even choose me, never mind stay with me! I am not interested in dealing with all the crap I would have to deal with, in order to have a man in my...
The Trouble with Valentine's Day
The Trouble with Valentine’s Day If you’re like most women (from my observations), you can get yourself fairly worked up leading up to Valentine’s Day...and the media sure does throw gas on that fire! Note: If you’re a woman who doesn’t get emotionally hooked by...
Always Remember – You're The Great Catch
Dear Karen, I have been out on a few dates with a man I am very excited about. My question to you is this: how can I stay on track so he wants to be with me? He’s really a catch, and I think we’d be great together. I want him to stick around long enough to know it,...
The Danger of Going On Attraction
Dear Karen, I have been getting tons of matches on eHarmony and am enjoying the experience so far. However, often when I look at the pictures a man has posted I know automatically I am not attracted to him, yet I feel guilty closing the match just on that reason...am...
Is Spark a Requirement?
Dear Karen, I have been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, and, although he’s nice enough and everything, I just don’t feel that “spark” with him. My question is this: am I being too picky? Should I just get over it and keep going out with him? Or is this telling me...
Waiting For Sex
Dear Karen, I just read something about the “100 Hour Rule” in an article, which basically said that you should wait until you’ve spent 100 hours with someone before you have sex. What do you think about that? – Stacey, RI Hi, Stacey, Although I haven’t heard of this...
Never Go Farther Than You Want
Dear Karen, I think I’ve made a mistake, and I would love your help. I’ve been out with a man a couple of times (I’m really attracted to him), and the other night, we went farther than I think I was comfortable with. I guess I got caught up in the moment. Now I’m...
Do You Have This "Dad Issue" in Your Way?
This week we talk about "Dad Worship", and how it can impact your romantic relationships with men.
Never Do Anything You’re Not Ready To Do
Dear Karen, I went on a date with a man I thought was nice, and I would like to see him again. You may be wondering what the problem is. Well, he kissed me, and I wasn’t ready for that yet. How should I handle this in the future? - Sarah Dear Sarah, What a juicy...
Having the Chat About Safe Sex
Dear Karen, I’ve been dating the most wonderful, kind, sweet, sincere man I’ve ever met. We’re getting close to being intimate – I know we’re ready for it on so many levels, but I have a huge problem: how do I bring up the topic of having safe sex without hurting his...
Saying “No” With Ease
Hi Karen, I recently accepted a date with a man I met on Match.com who was not a good match for me because of his age (57), but I decided to go out with him anyway. When he asked me out for a 2nd date, I said yes - mostly because I didn't know how to say no (in...
Optimists Are Attractive
Dear Karen, I know a lot of people are feeling scared these days. My question is this: I am out there dating, and want to end up in a really great relationship - one that lasts. With everyone in such a down mood, how is this ever going to work? Should I just wait...
Don't Play Dating Games With Men
Dear Karen, I’m confused with how to date. I've heard so many different things through media, and through girlfriends. Because she didn’t approve of the way I was dating, my mother gave me the book, "The Rules". I buried myself in this book at the age of 22. I'm now...
Discernment, or Judgment?
Dear Karen, I’ve recently connected with a man on Match.com, and I think we could be a good fit. The problem? He won’t get off his butt and suggest we get together! This guy just wants to email back and forth, which is driving me nuts. Is he just too much of a...
Online Dating? Never Do This!
If you're online dating, this is one thing that you do NOT want to do (no matter who else is doing it). You want to be building a foundation based on trust and honesty, and lying - about anything - is not supportive of that end goal at all.
Long Distance is Not the Big Problem
Hi, Karen, I met a man on Match.com last year, after a very long “man drought”. He was so sweet, he loves to dance - which is very important to me - and he was really into me…he “hit me like a ton of bricks”! Here’s my problem: he lives in Georgia six months out of...