Hi Karen, I have an online dating pet peeve: men who send an email that simply says "how are you?" and nothing else. Or men who clearly don't read your profile and what you're looking for and write to you anyway even though the deal-breakers are obvious (such as...
Hi Karen, I’m going to my family’s home in Ohio for Christmas, and I am dreading it. I’ll be around a bunch of nosy, judgmental family members that I don’t even like, and they’re going to get on my case about being unmarried. I hate it! It happens every year, and...
Karen, Is there something wrong with me? Nice men want to be with me, but I am just not attracted to them. I seem to always gravitate towards the “bad boy”, even though I know it doesn’t work. Help! - Mary Hi, Mary, You’re dealing with something that so many women...
Dear Karen, I was recently dating a man who I thought was “the one”. Things were going along well, and then “Boom!” – he dumped me. There had been a couple of things that I had seen along the way, but I thought we were still fine. I am so shocked and hurt. How can...
Dear Karen, I have a problem that has come up. Sometimes when I meet someone that is really fantastic, I get the old "he's way too good for me" feeling. I know that this is really bad and I try to tell myself it's silly. I'm afraid I'm projecting out what's going on...
Dear Karen, I have always struggled with my weight, and I have a fear that the reason the men I want haven't been interested in me is because of my weight/appearance. I have had more than one experience where I've e-mailed back and forth with a guy, talked on the...
Dear Karen, I’m really getting back out there and dating, after a painful breakup. I have a question about something that comes up for me quite a bit; I believe that if a man really cares about you, he should intuitively know what you need. Do you agree with me on...
Dear Karen, I've started dating online again and I am astonished at literally the countless number of men's profiles who say "no drama please". What exactly do they mean by this? I feel as though either they are unrealistic about relationships or they don't...
Dear Karen, I’ve just started dating a man I’m very excited about. We don’t live near each other – we met skiing, and see each other when we’re both there on the weekends. We are getting pretty serious (at least, it feels like it, and I sure hope so!). Here’s my...
Dear Karen, I have just gotten back into the dating scene, after a long-term relationship that didn’t work out. I would like to know what other vehicles you would recommend for meeting men (other than online dating, which I do NOT want to do). Thank you for any help...
Dear Karen, How do I manage online dating? I decided to take the plunge – thanks to the link on your website for that 3-for-1 special that Chemistry.com is running…it was the final “nudge” I needed! Anyway, how do I do this successfully? If this is too big a...
Dear Karen, I’ve heard that the guys doing online dating are not the type of men you want to be with. It makes me nervous about putting myself out there. Should I just find other ways to meet men? – Tracy, AZ Hi, Tracy, I’m a huge fan of online dating, so let me...
Dear Karen, I am thinking that I should do some internet dating, even though it makes me very nervous. Do you have any suggestions for how I can reduce my anxiety about it, and do you have a recommendation for which site to join? Thanks for your help with this. –...
Dear Karen, I have been on a few online dating sites, and am just not having any luck! I feel like I’ve got a great profile, I’m attractive and fun, but all I seem to meet is one jerk after another! It’s so annoying! I kinda feel like I want to throw in the towel,...
Dear Karen, I often wonder what I appear like on a date. Do I seem interested? Too independent? I wish I could take a hidden video camera just to see what I seem like. Sometimes, a man may not call back, and I do wonder: “Was the karma not right? Me? Him? Just...
Karen, I think I’m done with men. I just feel like I would have to turn myself completely inside-out to make one of them even choose me, never mind stay with me! I am not interested in dealing with all the crap I would have to deal with, in order to have a man in my...
The Trouble with Valentine’s Day If you’re like most women (from my observations), you can get yourself fairly worked up leading up to Valentine’s Day...and the media sure does throw gas on that fire! Note: If you’re a woman who doesn’t get emotionally hooked by...
Dear Karen, I have been out on a few dates with a man I am very excited about. My question to you is this: how can I stay on track so he wants to be with me? He’s really a catch, and I think we’d be great together. I want him to stick around long enough to know it,...
Dear Karen, I have been getting tons of matches on eHarmony and am enjoying the experience so far. However, often when I look at the pictures a man has posted I know automatically I am not attracted to him, yet I feel guilty closing the match just on that reason...am...
Dear Karen, I went on a date with a man I thought was nice, and I would like to see him again. You may be wondering what the problem is. Well, he kissed me, and I wasn’t ready for that yet. How should I handle this in the future? - Sarah Dear Sarah, What a juicy...